Welcome to Menopause, Me and ADHD

Navigating perimenopause symptoms while discovering my neurodivergent self

When I grow up i want to be a writer.

Until then I will share here my perimenopause journey while being diagnosed with adhd at 46yrs old.

I am a mum to 3 children, my eldest boy is 21 years old, daughter is 10yrs, youngest son is 8yrs. Parenting never came easy, I think that was partly due to my need for perfection, and my inability to create habitual routines. I did learn along the way, and I am hoping the kids don't need too much therapy in years to come :{}

Along side me is my husband, my cheerleader all the way, we are surviving the hormones together (some days more than others)

Rocky the fox dog and Zeus the pup are along for the ride 🐕🐕‍🦺


ME image

I took this photo on a drive back from a beautiful overnight I'd had with my husband. 

The day before, as we approached our hotel carpark I had mentioned something about who I was that day, Nikki(prior to meeting my husband) or Nicola(he used my full name from day one and I loved it)...

I couldn't fully explain what I meant by what I had just said, but it made sense to me. Nikki was probably more fun, daring and impulsive. Although desperately seeking stability, security and love. Nicola, on the other hand, is predictable, cautious and overthinking. 

I'm sure my husband misses 'nikki' from time to time, but probably not the times that she stayed out all night, impulsively overindulging. 

I miss Nikki from time to time, her chameleon personality, her charm(albeit while intoxicated), her total ability to mask her inability. Her fearless naivety I will forever miss.

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  • Livingston, Scotland, United Kingdom

If you would like to help me out with some research I’m doing for a project I’m working on, please get in touch. Find me on Substack nicolabal@substack.com